by: Megan Grant, LICSW | April 29, 2026
Introduction to Postpartum Depression in Men and Adoptive Parents
The birth of a baby into a family can bring a lot of changes in routine, emotions, and relationships. This addition also brings about a newfound joy, but can also bring about exhaustion, frustration, and sometimes sadness.
Though efforts have been made to bring about more awareness for women with postpartum depression—which still has a great need for improvement, others may also be affected by postpartum depression in silence.
How Common Is Postpartum Depression in Men and Adoptive Parents?
Postpartum Depression, or PPD, can happen to men—includes heterosexual and homosexual partnerships—as well as adoptive parents (though it is often referred to as post adoptive depression). According to postpartumdepression.org, approximately 1 in 10 men struggle with postpartum depression. Many go undiagnosed as they will not recognize that they are experiencing it.
What Causes Postpartum Depression in Men and Adoptive Parents?
Often, when there is a problem, we want to understand the cause so it can be fixed or avoided. However, like PPD in women—and depression in general—there is no singular cause. It is a combination of different factors working together. Here are some common factors that accompany a new baby, along with some risk factors that can trigger depressive symptoms:
Common Factors
- Continual lack of sleep
- Changes in prolactin or testosterone levels
- Financial stress
- Relationship changes
- Feelings of exclusion
Risk Factors
- PPD in the mother
- High-stress lifestyle
- Poor relationships with family or lack of support
- History of depression
- Traditional gender roles and stereotypes
- Less societal acceptance for adoptive parents or parents in a same-sex relationship
- Exhaustion from the adoption process
Symptoms of Postpartum Depression in Men and Adoptive Parents
PPD for men or adoptive parents often shows within the first 3-6 months of the baby’s arrival. It can last the entirety of the first year, which is the postpartum period. However, it is important to note that men and adoptive parents can also experience the “baby blues”. This differs from PPD in that it occurs within the first few days of baby’s arrival and often go away when the individual is able to visit friends, take time to themselves, or exercise. With this in mind, here are common symptoms of PPD:
- Social withdrawal
- Increased focus on other distractions, or work
- Fatigue and consistent low energy
- Decreased motivation
- Sleep, weight, and appetite changes
- Somatic symptoms such as headaches or stomach aches
- Frustration, anger, irritability
- Impulsivity
- Guilt
- Sadness
- Loss of interest in typically enjoyable activities
How to Cope at Home with Postpartum Depression
There are a number of things that can be done to help PPD in men and adoptive parents. However, one of most important things is to engage in self-care. Here is a list of things to help with self-care:
- Exercise
- Eat healthy
- Get more sleep when possible
- Meditate
- Journal
Strive for open communication. It is important to not close off feelings as this can worsen symptoms and drive a wedge in relationships. Also, be mindful of what triggers depressive symptoms. What makes you feel angry or sad? Be open to communicating it with your partner and develop positive coping skills—such as exercising—to help. It is also important to note that alcohol and substances can increase depressive symptoms, so it may be beneficial to stay away from them during this period of time.
Treatment Options for Postpartum Depression in Men and Adoptive Parents
If you are experiencing PPD, you are not alone—remember 1 in 10 men experience PPD. You will recover with proper care.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is best practice for helping with PPD. You can find a therapist who specializes in perinatal mental health and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) on psychologytoday.com or https://www.postpartumdepression.org/find-therapy/. Postpartum Support International also has a helpline available: 1-800-944-4773.
Support groups are also helpful. Though a group setting may sound intimidating, it can be helpful to hear experiences of others so you don’t feel isolated. Groups also allow you to gain support from others with similar experiences. Many are available, including at Therapy Evolved: https://therapyevolved.com/therapy-services/postpartum-support-group/
You’re carrying more than most people can see. Remember that your presence, effort, and love matter deeply to your family.